WHO AM I?
Hi I'm Tom. I'm 33 and i am a dad to my wonderful son. An adoptive dad. A gay dad. Or maybe just a dad?
I was just 17 when i met my (now) husband though we didn't get married for a quite a while after meeting. We've been through it all together. College, various career moves, flat moves, house moves... 16 years later still going strong.
Spending most of my 20's eating out all weekend and enjoying city breaks, it was when i was nearing 30 that I knew I wanted to be a dad. I liken it to that moment women are known to have... you know, when their body clock just 'PINGS!' and they need a baby. That was me.
Together my husband, Daniel, and I embarked on the adoption journey. It wasn't as terrible as I had been led to believe it could've been. Nine months later in the process, we saw a photo of our baby boy. He was ten months old and we knew we were looking at our son. In that moment life changed forever.
I'm still me. Still into music, food, taking a million pictures every day, (unfortunately no more TV, i'm resigned to catch up TV if i am lucky!) and of course writing my tales of parenthood. But first and foremost come my two boys. My weekends no longer mean lie ins and breakfast in bed... they now mean being woken up at 5am with my son running into my bedroom and watching European kids music videos on YouTube on repeat until the coffee has kicked in.
I aim to share my stories of real dad life with you hopefully showing you we're all in this together, you're not alone and that dad life really is like looking after a hormonal, small, drunk person who you are just trying to keep alive in their waking hours!
This Father's Day I helped Marks and Spencer celebrate all things dad style!
This morning my friends and the kids got together for brunch. We tucked into our pastries, sausages, eggs... while the kids made a lovely, messy concoction of croissant and playdoh. Standard.
We all know my son is obsessed with cars. So when Mercedes-Benz offered us a car for the week and a trip to Mercedes-Benz World, who was i to say 'No'?
Soft plays. Whether you love them or hate them, they are a necessity.
Which soft play dad are you?
I have recently been asked how I found attachment and bonding with my son. It’s such a loaded question. And in my naivety, during the adoption assessment process I didn’t really think about it. Is that bad? I should have.
We’ve been led by our son in everything. To me it feels so natural to allow him to do things at his own pace. And why not? What joy is there in forcing a child to do something a) they don’t want to do and b) they aren’t ready for?
I recently started this blog to share my experiences of parent and toddler life. But i know from being a prospective adopter myself 2 years ago that to hear real-life stories really helps. So i feel i have a little responsibility to the fellow adopters out there to share the journey we went on.
The awkward top 10.