I love massages and was quite the regular visitor to have my body pummelled before becoming a dad. But never often enough (or so I felt!). Now, i am lucky if i get a 20 second foot massage from my husband. So i was very much looking forward to this!
Toddlers are lucky little so and so's aren't they? They get fed, they play all day, pretty much get away with murder and can get as messy as they want, when they want! A toddlers day can pretty much be bliss if you throw in a nap (and excuse the odd tantrum or six...)
It’s the question every new parent is asked (usually frustratingly within 2 minutes of giving birth or bringing your child home). We have been asked if we’d adopt again loads of times. I don’t mind it, I probably asked all my friends who have had kids if they’d have another…
When my boy was 18 months he learnt to say “boobies” and found out if he throws his food on the wall, it sticks! He wasn’t drawing a circle… he was chewing the crayon. He wasn’t walking let alone playing the xylophone to the tune of twinkle twinkle.
It’s coming up to that time where we need to start thinking about nurseries. And probably like every parent that reaches this stage, I just don’t feel ready. Mentally, emotionally… I am just not there (yet?).
It's not every day I am so disciplined I hasten to add… there are certainly (many) days that the bath time routine is complete and I just end up on the sofa Snapchatting my way through Eastenders shoving Reese's Pieces in my face… those nights are pretty stress relieving too.
We were decorating the tree the other night with the old school Christmas tunes on and i was just smiling as i did it. I liken it to Nigella Lawson, you know how she just saunters around the kitchen slabbing butter on everything and smiling away to herself. That was me with my tree.
I never used to feel guilty about doing things for me... taking time out for myself and not worrying about a thing. But since becoming a dad, i really have slacked in really having some R&R. Last Saturday night I was lucky enough to have a couple of hours escapism. You don’t get these opportunities often as a parent, so when you do, you take them.
We were approved to be adopters in late October 2014. It was such an exciting time. We knew now though that we would potentially have to play the waiting game. We heard it from all angles- the social workers, our agency, the adoption charity where i worked...
We decided, during our research of potty training, to approach this very gently and to be led by him. We're giving him 'no-nappy time' every evening for the next few days just to get used to using the potty and the feeling of not wearing a nappy...
I recently started this blog to share my experiences of parent and toddler life. But i know from being a prospective adopter myself 2 years ago that to hear real-life stories really helps. So i feel i have a little responsibility to the fellow adopters out there to share the journey we went on.